Do you ever stop and think about what you’re thinking about?
It’s a bit of a tongue twister to read, but an interesting question all the same!
Most of us are either too damn busy or just don’t realise that it’s even possible to control our thoughts.
If you find yourself overwhelmed with negative thoughts and you’re having trouble making the switch to a positive mindset, you need to learn how to become a deliberate thinker.
“What the hell does that even mean?” you ask.
It’s about harnessing the power of your mind to design your life as you want it, rather than running around in circles on default mode. It’s about noticing there’s a chaotic backyard circus in your head and transforming it into a Cirque de Soliel spectacular.
Sound good? Want to know how to become a deliberate thinker? Let the show begin!
Don’t Become A Deliberate Thinker Because You Already ARE One!
While it may feel like you have no control over your thoughts, that’s simply because you haven’t learned the skills yet. And yes, thinking is a skill. It can be learned, and it can be mastered!
But it doesn’t come naturally, because at school we’re conditioned to learn, absorb, and regurgitate information, not truly and deliberately think.
If I ask you to stop reading and THINK, right now, you would probably sit there and wait for a random thought to appear, because that’s how you’ve always done it. Well, not any more sister!
Set Daily Intentions
Start practising your thinking when you start your day. Instead of lying in bed allowing your mind to wander, or distracting yourself from thinking entirely by jumping on your phone, decide how you want your day to unfold.
Keep it simple by choosing a theme word for the day. Think of that word as you put your feet on the ground and get out of bed. Start your day with purpose.
Take Purposeful Actions
Our thoughts guide our actions. So if our thoughts are scattered, undirected, or limiting, our actions are going to be stabs in the dark. Or we’ll feel too overwhelmed or afraid to act at all. Deliberate thinking is fantastic, but must be followed by deliberate action.
Speak On Purpose
Okay, so we don’t (and probably shouldn’t) speak every thought we have out loud. We’d probably get ourselves into a wee spot of trouble if we did that! But, we should let our speech reflect our deliberate thinking practices.
Let the way you talk about yourself, your business, your family and your life reflect the outcomes you want from the work you are doing.
Think On Purpose
Well duh – this one may seem obvious, but I bet you aren’t doing it. Are you setting aside time in your day to think? I don’t mean letting your mind drift off and handing the control over to those crazy monkeys running the show. I mean deliberate, controlled and directed thinking. It is possible, you just need to make the time.
Give yourself 30 minutes. Head to a quiet place where you feel calm (many people even have a dedicated thinking area). Make sure you take a notebook and a pen and purposefully think (and write!) about your goals, your challenges, where you want to be, and how you can get there.
This “being a deliberate thinker” idea may feel difficult to start with. And it will take practice to reel your mind back in and under your control after so many years of letting it run on autopilot. But, keep at it and you’ll see that it’s possible to direct your thoughts to change your mindset.
If you are anything like me, then there are days where you battle with your mindset. Having a set of mindset tools can really help keep you on track. And I just happen to have some of those in my new book… And this is your official invite to jump on the pre-release list to grab a first edition copy- A signed copy and there are only 200. Click here to make sure you get the link when I will be opening pre sales on the 17th March.