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2.5 kids plus a hunky husband…What more could a girl want?

It suddenly occurred to me one day that just because I hadn’t experienced hardship, extreme conditions or any tragic situations….That because I was comfortable and privileged ….That because I hadn’t been a victim  then I couldn’t possibly BE anyone of significance… I mean who was I to think that I could impact, inspire or succeed if I my story wasn’t significant.  I thought that I couldn’t have an extraordinary life and BE someone…totally crazy right!

Well then it hit me like a tonne of bricks…That I was actually being a complete and utter IDIOT! I was in fact being a victim by playing small. I had had a blessed life, happy childhood, I am married with 2 kids, a large male boxer and a gorgeous husband. And here I was waiting for something BAD to happen so that I could step out and up, to finally do what I always wanted to do. (Keep reading I promise I make this long story short 🙂

I had created a life that was all about how stressed I was, my bumper sticker said “”Stress The Small Stuff”  I had lost all sense of what MY journey was or had become. Playing small and stressing over dumb S*#t was making me depressed. Being a puppet pulled along by life’s strings and reactive choices were corrupting my mind…I had forgotten to listen to my intuition… What did I really want? …Hell I forgot to even appreciate the gorgeous aroma of my morning espresso.

10155036_1017869434905772_2819069918218390691_nIf you are anything like me the past 5 years have been about raising kids, working in a full time career and forging ahead. But to the detriment of what I really wanted to do. Which didn’t occur to  me until a few years ago. I was in a job that I was starting to hate because I was unfulfilled. I have come from a male dominated career journey.

I am a qualified chef by trade and have worked in some of the world’s most iconic restaurants plus cooked with some of the greatest egos of all times… 35 degree heat and pressure does crazy things to ones head! I learnt quickly as often the only female in the kitchen that your passion, skill and tenacity created and forged your success.  Anyway I digress! The past five years have been jammed packed, I mean rack em’ and stack em’ kind of pace…buying and selling our first family home, 2  babies (oh wait I already said that!) and 2 promotions…..Breathe.

Enter stage left…My promotion and massive transformational catalyst of my life… Thanks to a boss I will never forget. He saw my leadership skills and asked me to run his business. I had a 2 year old at the time and was planning another baby…It didn’t matter to him, he created a flexible and boundaryless job for me. I pushed the limits, I was in my flow, my zone of genius. I was honoured to have lead and worked alongside some of the most amazing people I have ever met. I know and can see that if someone values you, believes in you and gives you the platform to perform… magic DOES happen. It was at this point I wanted more in my life..

If I was capable of such achievements what else could I do. So I got fit… I changed my lifestyle, dropped two dress sizes and am committed on being the leanest, fittest and healthiest version of myself. Getting fit and losing 2 dress sizes uncovered for me how much I had been hiding from the world.. playing small.


So here I am today…Right here, right now.  I walked full force into a life I had only dreamt of. I walked away from my corporate salary and launched my own business-  Every single person deserves the chance to dream and to create a career strategy to get them to a fulfilling career.

Apart from my own BS and self sabotage I really didn’t have anything stopping me. I have the most supportive, salt of the earth husband ( I would totally clone him if I could so you could experience what I get to). I realised all you needed was the belief in yourself and one raving  fan- enter stage left hunky husband. 485535_878557792170271_1708444099350962186_n

You don’t need something external, or monumental or tragic to happen in your life to HAVE a life you want right now. You just need a bucket load of desire, a tonne of persistence and a lifetime supply of faith (not the blind stuff). Everything else you need will come to you as you need it. Trust.

Simply moving through the motions because you are one lucky son of a gun…Doesn’t cut it.

If you can give more, be more than damn well step up.

Find out what really ignites your passion, learn to dream again. Become one of the leaders the world desperately needs, one girlfriend at a time.

You aren’t just a mum, a girlfriend, a wife, a lover, an aunt, a women or a person…You are a moving ball of energy who can create an epic life experience not only for yourself but for those around you.

Join me…Get a new bumper sticker “Be More, Be You”.

PS. You are enough as you are…But shine some more light on your gorgeous talents and dreams. You won’t be sorry….Just pissed off if you leave it till you are dead…Just sayin’



Natalie Tolhopf | Business Coach

About Natalie Tolhopf | Business Coach

After more than a decade in coaching (and a failed business venture), Natalie Tolhopf knows that success is all about mindset, focus and consistency. With a coaching philosophy that’s equal parts butt kick and handhold, Nat guides inspired businesswomen to take imperfect action to build your business in a way that’s right for you. She’ll teach you how to adopt a success mindset, and bust through procrastination and perfectionism to become the star of your own show.

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