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You are ugly.

I heard that phrase more than 3 times as a young 20 year old girl. Imagine it for a moment being told your face is ugly.

Trusted female friends coming up to your face and saying, actually knowing that what they are about to say will literally crush your soul…

“God …You are ugly”

This is a true story. Being a 20 year old female in a male dominated space (I was an apprentice chef back then)….Knives, heat and sweat. Definitely no frills here.

Being tall and amazon sized it was hard to hide, blend in if you will. I tried hard. Especially after being cut down to size by other trusted females.

This isn’t a pity party folks.

I am sharing this story to show you that I have carried this story for the past two decades ( I am nearly 40…I know you thought I was still 30!) Anyway putting myself out there, wearing bright lipstick…Well it scares the fuck out of me!

So to show up everyday and being in front of you all is BIG. But the payoff is amazing. I get to fall in love with myself…Nothing like self love when you see your mug everyday on FB!

I am not only your proof that you can leave your job, launch and create a profitable business (not in 6 months, but in 2 years) but also that we all have shadows, darkness, demons and stories. I am just choosing to move through them and rewrite a new story.

So you can imagine my surprise when I woke up one morning in January when my half of my face paralysed…Yup. My face. I looked like a stroke victim. I slurred my words, my eye wouldn’t close and my mouth was all droopy.

Yes I drooled.

A lot.

Still now food drops from my mouth. Sorry not sorry!

So what did I do when this happened…Obviously after going to the doctor to be reassured that it was Bells Palsy and not a stroke…I jumped on line and created a video.

  For self acceptance.

Some people message and suggest I hide my face as it was a bit ugly to look at. They honestly thought they were being nice…Oh how I laughed. I then made the biggest effort in my life to embrace all of my goodness to see past the face, to really learn the lesson of self love.

  Devoted time to see myself, heal and love.

So I TOTALLY understand that it is scary to put yourself out there, show up in a video, a picture, a selfie and to network…Oh I feel you. But your message is bigger than you. You are here to do more, you are here to really empower and to be of service to others. And the only way to be seen as a leader is to stand right under that spotlight.

I see you and your are beautiful.

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Natalie Tolhopf | Business Coach

About Natalie Tolhopf | Business Coach

After more than a decade in coaching (and a failed business venture), Natalie Tolhopf knows that success is all about mindset, focus and consistency. With a coaching philosophy that’s equal parts butt kick and handhold, Nat guides inspired businesswomen to take imperfect action to build your business in a way that’s right for you. She’ll teach you how to adopt a success mindset, and bust through procrastination and perfectionism to become the star of your own show.

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