Stop Getting In Your Own Way! - Natalie Tolhopf - Business Coach


Stop Getting In Your Own Way!

Stop Getting In Your Own Way!

Today is the day! 

No more messing around, making excuses, and pretending you don’t know what is holding you back. It’s time to get real about all the crap that’s getting in your way. 

I have to say, it’s not going to be pretty and it’s not going to be comfortable. But I promise you, it’s going to empower the shit out of you! 

When you are brutally honest with yourself and admit that the problem rests with you, it also means the solution is with you too! How rare and powerful is that?

Feeling stuck, insecure, negative, fearful, suffering from imposter syndrome or perfectionism are all symptoms of the same disease… you are getting in your own damn way. 

But stop! 

This is not another reason to beat yourself up and feel helpless. Stop with the rhetoric of “Oh my gawd, she’s right, I am getting in my own way… Woe is me… I suck at life!” 

This is your opportunity to put those superwoman powers to good use.  

Today, we are going to figure out how to step aside and get the hell out of your own way. Then, you can be the kickass successful businesswoman you know you are deep down.

Ready? Boom! Let’s do this!

Stop Getting In Your Own Way By:S

Being Honest With Yourself

Hey, if you can’t be honest with your own damn self, who can you trust? 

Denial and avoidance are attractive in the short term, but that ball and chain isn’t going to get you where you want to be. 

Ask yourself what’s behind the obstacles you face. And no bullshit, please. 

Immediately, excuses will spring to mind. That you don’t have enough time, energy, money, focus, motivation… the list goes on. Any of these sound familiar?

You may even have some of these thoughts…

  1. I’m not good enough/smart enough/experienced enough/young enough/brave enough

  2. My competition is so much better than me. I’ll never be as good as them. Why even try?

  3. I’m not ready to release that yet, it’s not perfect.

Guess what? If you are having these thoughts, you are not alone. BOY, are you not alone!

I’ve been there, some days I am still there. Chances are, most of the women in your circle have been there (or live there right now). 

And why is that? 

Because of the fear!

But, guess what… fear is a liar and is very good at tricking you.

Seeing Fear Is A Liar

Behind everything listed above is one uniting factor – fear. Fear of being unworthy, fear of being not good enough, fear of being humiliated, fear of feeling uncomfortable, fear of being disappointed, or even fear of being disliked. 

Until you really look at what’s going on in that complex mind of yours, you don’t realise how much your fear controls you. 

As women, we are notorious for self-sabotage. We are great at getting in our own way in an attempt to control the situation. If we don’t try, we can’t fail, right?  

Taking Control

It is time to get back in the driver’s seat and buckle up. Fear doesn’t need to run the show anymore.

I’m not saying you have to be fearless to plough ahead. But, you DO have to plough ahead – even when fear is tapping you on the shoulder telling you to slow down or make a U-turn.

For the longest time, women have felt the need to put themselves down. We are meant to be “small,” liked and be polite. 

Instead, we should be as “big” as we wanna be. 

Start being your own damn cheerleader – you are an expert at what you do. You are smart, motivated, kickass, and powerful. 

Writing It Out

Not sure where to start on getting out of your own way? 

Journalling baby! Yep, writing a diary isn’t just for lovestruck teens. Keeping a journal every day is the best way to get all that crap out of your head and into some kind of order. 

The key to successful journaling is not judging what you write. Don’t try to write pretty or intelligent things. Just write. Start by noting down every thought, fear or belief that’s getting in your way. 

Getting them out of your head and onto the page is one of the best ways of identifying negative mindsets and negative beliefs. Identifying what they are is the first step in kicking them in the butt!

So how do you feel now? Maybe a bit sheepish to admit that you’ve been getting in your own way. Hopefully, you are also feeling excited to do something about it. 

Now, it is time to embrace the challenges that are coming up. Know this one thing… you’ve got this!

And hey, if you need a little bit of help then that’s alright too. Maybe I can help you to kick fear in the butt! Why not have a chat with me to see if I can help you shift some of those blocks? Book a time now! 

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